This “Indian Proverb” was given to me on my certificate upon completing 12 weeks of Anger Management. Enjoy, if you will, and go watch my video on the key concepts I got out of attending. Plus some tips on managing your anger and whether you may also benefit from attending a similar program.
(I am not trying to offer advice in substitution for a program, or promote the program for any other reason besides the fact that it helped me.)
An old Cherokee is teaching his Grandson about life said,
“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil– he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued,
“The other is good– he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you- and inside every other person, too.”
The Grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his Grandfather,
“Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
If you haven’t heard this proverb before, you are probably quite struck by the simplicity of the moral- I know I was the first time I heard it. Because it’s so. damn. true.
I usually use animals to describe my instincts, and enjoy saying that I feel “the call of the wild” when I get strong desires to act a fool. I’m pretty attached to my extreme reactions to situations… and to be entirely honest, I wouldn’t know who I was if I didn’t have anger as my trusty sidekick to shield and guide me through the painful times into victory.
But reframing these needs and reactions has been helpful for me to get a better understanding of where these instincts derive from, and whether they are really, truly helpful…. to my progression, and well-being.
I really hope that I find a way to make peace between my not-so-authentic wolves, and hope the same for you, my dear reader.